We all love our children endlessly and have since the moment they became part of our lives. They are adorable – we share their pictures with everyone, whether or not they ask. We get the same giddy feeling every single time they laugh. No doubt, they have us wrapped around their tiny, little fingers…
But now, let’s be real. Motherhood is HARD. It is, without question, the most challenging adventure most of us have ever known. Everything about becoming a mother is both beautiful and inconsolably messy.
I was not prepared for life as a mom. Then again, who is, really? I felt it all – the unexplainable joy mixed with the overwhelming “what did we do?!” sentiment. I know I’m not alone. Most moms go through some form of baby blues: anxiety, loneliness, depression, sleep deprivation, stress, fear, and loss of identity. How on earth can something be so amazing and special, yet so chaotic and confusing? This emotional roller coaster leaves us feeling like we’re on an island, but the truth is, nearly every mom can relate.
There is no shame in this honesty, but most of us don’t talk about it. It’s our tendency to share the happy moments – the picture-perfect moments – but we’re less inclined to simply say, “today is really, really hard.” Personally, I feel drained by the exhaustion. I feel like I need more support and more “me time.” I desire a time when I felt like I was in control of my life. Oh, and I miss my relationship with my husband.
Life will never be the same, though. From the moment we became pregnant, everything changed: mind, body, and spirit. Our identity shifted, and even if this new, 2.0 version of ourselves is better, we have to acknowledge and embrace that life has changed. We have changed.
Motherhood is more than a full-time gig, and generally, we respond to it by putting ourselves last. We give so much of ourselves away immediately. This role requires brain power, muscle, every inch of our heart, and every minute of our day. So, here is my challenge for you, mamas: take care of your mind, body, and spirit.
I started Hello My Tribe with the hope of creating comfort and community through our similar life experiences. I believe putting yourself first and focusing, at least sometimes, on self-care are essential in order to be the best mom, wife, and partner possible. I also know how difficult this is to do.
Don’t forgot how important you are. You play such a vital role in your own tribe, and now in ours. Together, we can do so much.