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Redefining “Making It”

Recently I attended a memorial service in celebration of the life of a wonderful woman. I only had a handful of interactions with her, but they were always genuine and meaningful. And as I listened to her loved ones eulogize her, I knew that I was among the blessed many who had similar interactions with her.

Attendants spoke of her love, her unyielding faith, her grace and her laughter. As her friends and family consoled each other they all agreed that she was taken too soon, she was only 48 years young.

She was remarkable in every way – and after being around her friends and family and listening to folks tell stories that will keep her memory alive, I realized that, metaphorically speaking, she lived her life within a small radius, but my oh my – did it go miles deep. Every single person who came to celebrate her life was made the better by the many or in my case, the few, interactions with her.

And I couldn’t help but feel while she lived within a small radius but deep, that I was living almost the exact opposite way – wide, but shallow.

I am a writer and motivational speaker and for as long as I can remember I have wanted to reach the many. I have dreamed of the day that I stand on stage and address thousands of women. To that end I have written and blogged and vlogged my little heart out. I have Facebooked and Instagrammed into the wee hours of the night – wanting to expand my “platform,” to reach and help women – yes, but also to “make it.”

“Making it,” career wise is one of the main things that drives me. And early on, I defined “making it,” as have a best-selling book, speaking to crowds of thousands and being interviewed by Oprah. Guys, Oprah. (Insert laughter and eye roll here!) So anything short of that would be “paying my dues.” Basically a recipe for “not making it.”

If you’re in business of any kind – you know that social media is really the city that never sleeps. Must. Be. On. Social. Media. All. Day. Today’s climate demands a constant social media presence, which sometimes is fun, but most times is exhausting. Because it’s not just sharing, it’s sharing the exact right thing at the exact right time to increase engagement – a science and full-time job unto its own.  And all this to reach more people – expanding the radius of one’s life further and further.

And while I sat in the aftermath of a lady who didn’t seek to expand the radius of her life in order to “make it,” who focused on pouring into her family and friends, I couldn’t help but want to steer my life in a little different of a direction.

As fate would have it, a few days before my friend’s funeral, I vowed to take a week long social media vacation.  I thought it would be tough, that I would miss it – but I just didn’t. Without the ever presence of social media, I connected with my daughters more, I dozed off while nursing my 4 month old and I started reading two books! And because I wasn’t glued to my phone, I magically found time to talk with girlfriends, I spent more quality time with my husband and I really took notice of how beautiful the sky looks at sunset.

The way my friend lived her life, pushed me to rethink how I was living mine. She made me redefine, “making it,” consequently, changing my priorities.

Her way of being gave me renewed inspiration to cultivate face-to-face relationships, to pour into the lives of my girlfriends and neighbors and to give deeply to those around me.

Listen, I still love Oprah and I’ll still work hard to spread inspiration and nourish women through my writing and speaking – but I’m not going to do it at the cost of whizzing by or worse, missing, all the blessings and opportunities right in front of me.

“If you want to change the world, go home and love your family.” – Mother Theresa

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Catia Holm

Catia Hernandez Holm inspires audiences through her candid and poignant motivational writings, videos, and her signature movement, the “Confidence Revolution.” She teaches women how to experience peace and joy, and how to make the most of their days. Through her writing and speaking, she pours energy into encouraging women to RISE and BECOME their most authentic selves and claim their power, peace and joy. Her debut book, The Courage to Become, will be released fall 2017. Catia is a proud wife and mama to two beautiful girls.

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12 Comments
  1. posted by
    Bea Love
    Jun 19, 2017 Reply

    Truly enjoyed reading your article. As a mom of two, entrepreneur and Oprah fan-it spoke to me;) . Look forward to reading more of your work. Thanks for sharing.

    • posted by
      Catia Holm
      Jul 13, 2017 Reply

      Thanks so much, Bea! Oprah is the best, right ?

  2. posted by
    [email protected]
    Jun 21, 2017 Reply

    What a lovely post! My husband and I have been thinking along these same lines, that it’s time to start focusing more on the people right around us, and less on the social media world that whizzes by us 24/7. Thank you for sharing what an impact the woman in the story made on your life!

    • posted by
      Catia Holm
      Jul 13, 2017 Reply

      I have been trying to focus more on neighbors and girlfriends and family – and it has been a lovely few months so far. 🙂

  3. posted by
    Danielle
    Jun 23, 2017 Reply

    Such a great post and so true! Social media is so time consuming and easy to get caught up in.

    • posted by
      Catia Holm
      Jul 13, 2017 Reply

      Consuming is such a perfect word for it. 🙂

  4. posted by
    Ashley Peavey
    Jun 23, 2017 Reply

    Love this read! Thank you for sharing! It is all so very true!

    • posted by
      Catia Holm
      Jul 13, 2017 Reply

      I’m so glad, Ashley!

  5. posted by
    Aseky Bonnaire
    Jun 25, 2017 Reply

    This was a good read! I have thought about taking a social media break, and it seems to have done good for you! ❤️

    • posted by
      Catia Holm
      Jul 13, 2017 Reply

      It definitely changes perspective. 🙂

  6. posted by
    Erica Gwynn
    Jun 25, 2017 Reply

    This is SO GOOD. And so important. Redefining “making it” is the key to newfound happiness and fulfillment in today’s day and age – I’m convinced!

    Coming Up Roses

    • posted by
      Catia Holm
      Jul 13, 2017 Reply

      I know! The definition of making it has morphed – thank goodness!

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